Tag: change

Enough

And then she found her way,
not because she knew where she was going,
but because she slowly allowed herself to fall in love with the person she was.
And that was enough.

“She slowly allowed herself to fall in love with the person she was.

And that was enough.”

@tozandothersaltywords 

The journey included getting lost,  
it showed her twists and turns she hadn’t anticipated. Her horse blinds of the one track life she had anticipated were ripped off.

“But then she realised she was her own compass.”

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She felt lost, unplanned and as if she lacked direction. But then she realised she was her own compass.  
Where was she going? She had no idea.  
Was she ready to embrace it with all of her?

Absolutely.

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A Letter to my Younger Self

Dearest younger self,

I see you.

The way you adapt, change, even hide who you are. I see you grappling with the million thoughts that go through your head every second. I feel every emotion, every hurt, every love, every heartbreak, all of it. It’s still here.

I’m over 10 years down the line from you and I still feel, remember, know and see all of you.

“I feel every emotion, every hurt, every love, every heartbreak, all of it. It’s still here.”

@tozandothersaltywords

I need you to do something for us. I need you to start loving you.
Not every stranger you meet, or person who’s story that makes your heart bleed…
…no my child, I need you to love you.

Focus on you. It’s as if you forgot how to be selfish, and due to that everyone you’ve ever met expects unwavering selflessness. You turn up on time for them, but often lack the respect to turn up for yourself. This is not meant to sound cruel but I can tell you that if you continue on that track you may well end up finding out that you can’t make everyone happy the hard way.

“You turn up on time for them, but often lack the respect to turn up for yourself.”

@tozandothersaltywords

The things we will feel, love, lose and witness will be what makes us. The times that we cry, howl and help those we love will build our character. And I do not mean that we should ever hesitate to give our time and add value to people, but please oh please remember that the first person to be giving all that love to always should be to yourself. That’s what I’ve learned. And that’s what I’ve realised is important.

“please oh please remember that the first person to be giving all that love to always should be to yourself.”

@tozandothersaltywords

Once you do love yourself you will no longer feel the need to hide who you are from other people you meet. You will no longer adapt to look a certain way or smile at situations you do not wish to smile through. You will no longer change who you are as a person just to please others when you meet them. You will no longer help the ones you love because of obligation but because you have the capacity to do so. You shall be far smarter than I, you will know that the secret of being able to give starts with giving to yourself first.

“The things we will feel, love, lose and witness will be what makes us. The times that we cry, howl and help those we love will build our character.”

@tozandothersaltywords

I could give you stories and memories that  will stay with me forever more, but you need to experience those yourself. My hope of this letter is that if I can impart this one lesson, this one nugget. Maybe, just maybe you will be able to change and help more than I have or ever will.

“The battle scars that got me here I wear with pride and make me the person I am today.”

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I hope you know this isn’t that I want to change where I am or you getting here. The battle scars that got me here I wear with pride and make me the person I am today. All I wish for, is that along the way and through the ups and downs you make sure you love yourself, just a little bit more.

I love you and I love your love, I will always be your number 1 fan,

Your older self

@tozandothersaltywords

Sometimes

Sometimes everything has to fall apart so that something great can happen.

“Sometimes everything has to fall apart so that something great can happen.”

@tozandothersaltywords

Tread softly and don’t be scared, remember that your dreams are not the only dreams in the world.
Be respectful but don’t be a pushover.
Aim high because your failures will be your best lessons.
Rome wasn’t built in a day is not a random old saying it is a fact, nothing great is built in a day.
Life is short so always remember to have fun along the way.
If you’re not enjoying it, either accept you can’t enjoy every part of the process to get to where you want or change your end goal.
Be open to new opportunities but remember when to say no.
But above all things, love who you are every morning, embrace that incredible human and be all of you, every emotion, every mood, every feeling.

“your dreams are not the only dreams in the world […]
your failures will be your best lessons[…]
nothing great is built in a day[…]
remember when to say no[…]
love who you are every morning”

@tozandothersaltywords

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The Compare


The change into something new, someone new.
Every moment re-navigating and learning from scratch once again.
Trying to figure out if it is incredible or you’re blinded once more.
Finding traits so much better than before, accepting kindness you’ve never experienced.

“re-navigating and learning from scratch once again.”

@tozandothersaltywords

But you hesitate.
You’re scared of letting go with someone new.
You compare, contrast, question and over analyse every tiny detail.
Have you let go?
Have you landed into a space of enjoying the journey?

“But you hesitate.
You’re scared of letting go with someone new.
You compare, contrast, question and over analyse every tiny detail.”

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You tell yourself over and over it’s not a destination.
Why so wound up?  It’s only been a few months.
That doesn’t help, last time it was over half a decade and they left.

There it is again, the compare.
We all do it.
After all, it is our only reference point, everything that ever broke us, follows us, keeps us on our toes.

“There it is again, the compare.
We all do it.
After all, it is our only reference point, everything that ever broke us”

@tozandothersaltywords

You sit in your head overthinking, overdreaming.
Then they do something, it is so small you barely acknowledge it consciously.
Somehow you’ve let them in, you’ve let them in and you’re still scared
And still learning.

You recount endless discussions trying to make sure you don’t break again.
And in that moment you realise you can’t,
You can’t compare.
Your emotions must be free to be able to even contemplate new change,
New things,
New people.

“You can’t compare.
Your emotions must be free to be able to even contemplate new change”

@tozandothersaltywords

So go feel it,
Leave the comparisons, the memories of heartbreak and hard lessons far from the new.
Stop using them as an excuse.
Stop letting them mute your happiness,
For what’s in front of you has never harmed you nor given you reason to hesitate.
Go love freely, be honest with yourself, remember you’ve never been in this position before and unless they give you a reason to,
Stop the compare.

“Stop using them as an excuse.
Stop letting them mute your happiness,
For what’s in front of you has never harmed you nor given you reason to hesitate.”

@tozandothersaltywords
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