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The Compare


The change into something new, someone new.
Every moment re-navigating and learning from scratch once again.
Trying to figure out if it is incredible or you’re blinded once more.
Finding traits so much better than before, accepting kindness you’ve never experienced.

“re-navigating and learning from scratch once again.”

@tozandothersaltywords

But you hesitate.
You’re scared of letting go with someone new.
You compare, contrast, question and over analyse every tiny detail.
Have you let go?
Have you landed into a space of enjoying the journey?

“But you hesitate.
You’re scared of letting go with someone new.
You compare, contrast, question and over analyse every tiny detail.”

@tozandothersaltywords

You tell yourself over and over it’s not a destination.
Why so wound up?  It’s only been a few months.
That doesn’t help, last time it was over half a decade and they left.

There it is again, the compare.
We all do it.
After all, it is our only reference point, everything that ever broke us, follows us, keeps us on our toes.

“There it is again, the compare.
We all do it.
After all, it is our only reference point, everything that ever broke us”

@tozandothersaltywords

You sit in your head overthinking, overdreaming.
Then they do something, it is so small you barely acknowledge it consciously.
Somehow you’ve let them in, you’ve let them in and you’re still scared
And still learning.

You recount endless discussions trying to make sure you don’t break again.
And in that moment you realise you can’t,
You can’t compare.
Your emotions must be free to be able to even contemplate new change,
New things,
New people.

“You can’t compare.
Your emotions must be free to be able to even contemplate new change”

@tozandothersaltywords

So go feel it,
Leave the comparisons, the memories of heartbreak and hard lessons far from the new.
Stop using them as an excuse.
Stop letting them mute your happiness,
For what’s in front of you has never harmed you nor given you reason to hesitate.
Go love freely, be honest with yourself, remember you’ve never been in this position before and unless they give you a reason to,
Stop the compare.

“Stop using them as an excuse.
Stop letting them mute your happiness,
For what’s in front of you has never harmed you nor given you reason to hesitate.”

@tozandothersaltywords
@tozandothersaltywords

Letting yourself Land (part 2)

Crash landing & letting go

Letting go isn’t necessarily what you need to do. Letting yourself land, puts you in a space where eventually you realise one day that you have let go.

Just saying let go makes it feel like an instant occurrence…as if you can just be done with what’s causing you pain. But you can’t. It is not instant and it is not going to happen when you want it to or think you need it to. I’m sorry to say you will have to sit with it.

“It is not instant and it is not going to happen when you want it to or think you need it to.”

@tozandothersaltywords

You will have to land in the uncomfortable matrix you’ve ended up in. It will be raw and uneasy and sometimes the landing will be bumpy as hell, you might even crash land, but…once you have landed, you feel it.

“You will have to land in the uncomfortable matrix you’ve ended up in.”

@tozandothersaltywords

You feel the ground beneath your feet, the soil, the mud, the grass, the tarmac, whatever you’ve imagined landing on. And you stand up. Just like that you have landed…and once you’ve landed in that moment of emotions, you have no other option but to begin following your feet all over again.

“once you’ve landed in that moment of emotions, you have no other option but to begin following your feet all over again.”

@tozandothersaltywords

Re-trusting your decisions, your path, re-finding your worth and self love. It won’t all be smiles and joy, but my gosh it will heal you, it will teach you true love for yourself. And once you have that love for yourself, no one will be able to break that ever again.

“It won’t all be smiles and joy, but my gosh it will heal you, it will teach you true love for yourself.”

@tozandothersaltywords

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